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JoJo and Jordan’s Relationship Ups and Downs | Engaged


  • Published on: 2018-10-09
  • what's going on guys hi guys we are back so you guys saw our love story unfold on TV you watched us it was a fairy tale for us but when the camera shut off and our season ended that's when things got real for us really real and we haven't really shared I'm sure at all we want to kind of take you guys through what that was like for us and just share what we went through all of it right now where do I begin um I guess technically when the cameras turned off for us on that final day was after our engagement you know we were on a TV show we're here literally living a fantasy you're taking helicopters on dates you're doing you know candlelit dinners in a vineyard and I was more excited about getting to normalcy I just wanted a normal life I I didn't want all that I just wanted to to be us outside of a show that makes sense yeah we're not a big like crazy extravagant anything so normalcy was great but I almost was excited about finding having imperfect moments with you yeah yeah we had some imperfect moments okay I know but I was just talking about like you know going to dinner and then having missed them messing up his his meal and us you know chuckling about it and like I I just was excited for that did I just say chuckling mm-hm I just did chuckling Wow I have not said chuckling I don't think ever in my life so the first whoops chuckling I don't think the real difficulties began until after the final rose when that's when life really started yeah that's because that's when you guys found out that I chose Jordan so that's really when things kind of blew up for us and we didn't really know how to prepare for that you know we woke up the next morning we're on a red-eye flight to New York to do like a press day and so that was a world one in general because we had never done that together and then the week following we went to Nashville we're packing up his house I was moving to Dallas we're trying to deal with everything the backlash the good the bad that everybody is talking about our relationship while we're still in the midst of learning about each other and meshing our lives and I think was it right after the first big like Chad Boyd came out that was yeah this is what we're supposed to be moving into a new home together and be happy and we just got engaged that was probably the most trying time for our entire relationship those times when kind of we're packing everything up and should be very honestly like are we doing the right thing I don't know if I always shared with you like how it made me feel because I think that there was a part of me that was like scared that he would get mad yeah let's be honest we're in a young relationship and we know this now sitting here but it was tough to share these things because it ended up being a fight a huge fight because we didn't know how to communicate with each other and our feelings are both getting hurt because there's tabloids about me and so I'm getting defensive and heard and then I'm like well why are you believing that and we're just getting to know each other so a lot of times unfortunately I think we kind of held in those feelings yeah and that and not to be honest that's terrible I didn't mean to cut you off or see how much better I'm getting and communicating like um hi the I lost my train of thought what were you saying about holding things in yeah which the idea of being so kind of scared to express ourselves was actually one of the most detrimental things we could have done to our relationship and we didn't know that at the time but what played out afterwards because of that got tough you're scared they had a grocery store if you show that oh my gosh we're in a disagreement like every couple has we're so scared to have those moments in public where people thought maybe everything wasn't perfect it was about a year after getting engaged that we felt like we turned the corner and we were just starting to have a relationship and don't don't get us wrong we had a really like a really amazing moment in that year absolutely mom what I think what was the most frightening for maybe the both of us was those really high highs and then seeing it go down into those low low and and just seeing how was that it started to scare me into thinking this is an unstable relationship and just so that y'all know it's like I'm you're probably sitting there wondering like what was it that you were fighting about and I don't obviously the tabloids and the rumors and that was constant like once we got over one a week later a new one came out and so it was just one after the other that I felt like we never really caught a break [Music] really all of the tabloids really all of them talked about you just cheating on me I remember one that like I think we're at a point where we were trying to just let them fall off and rush off and ignore them and then there was a tabloid article that said I was currently on a dating website yeah and there was like screenshots and stuff like that and so I reached out to the person that created that it was Riya yeah is Riya and which I had been on years ago and so I reached out to really the creator of the app to get their tech team to prove that it was false but like it doesn't matter the damage is already done and so you can try to prove and validate every accusation but at the end of the day I think we just had to come together and be like either that trust is there and it's always earned and we continued our yeah but you have to have that trust and it has to be stronger than anything that's being hurled at you oh yeah I remember that I mean it was not easy I remember just feeling so sick to my stomach like I think you said it all just snow balled and then I think that there was a point where we started to almost feel like a sense of resentment mm-hmm we were so scared of what our what would our families think what would our followers saying what do our friends think if we open up to him about all these struggles like I don't know how guys are but I know for me anytime I had trouble with relationships in my past I'd be able to call you know my girlfriend and talk to her and call my mom or witch I don't know if all is always a good idea calling the family but I've learned but I would have people to talk to about it and that's how I flush out those feelings when we got together I think we both like you said we're so scared of just having judgment passed on that yeah that we put ourselves on islands where we didn't have anybody to talk to and we were just learning how to communicate with each other I remember like to a fault I would in an argument I would just kind of like walk away because I am stubborn and sometimes I'm I'm not the first one to take that step very rarely the first one to take that step and that is so bad and so I'm so glad we're coming so much further and being able to talk to each other and communicate in a manner that every couple every relationship learns but we were just kind of thrust into something full-speed and trying to catch up along the way in the midst of crazy yeah I felt like every week it was something new that we were butting heads on and we weren't able to communicate and you're probably wondering how we got through it you're probably wondering how we got through that hard year like you can even talk about this moment there was this one moment where we had had our ups and our downs and we've had fights and we've had makeups and we've had you know you know all the promises that we would change or work on things and nothing I think ever was truly heard but there was a moment where we got to the end and I think it was a really like wasn't an angry moment it wasn't a resentful moment I think it was more we both were just sad I have this very vivid memory of us getting into an argument I remember getting in my car and driving around my neighborhood just cuz I felt like I needed just a moment to myself and and I remember just starting to cry while I was in the car you know I was so sad and thinking like I want to be able to pick up my phone right now call my best friend and just talk to her like I felt so tired of holding all those feelings in and did it I was nervous I was scared I didn't want her to only hear me talk about those negative moments that was a moment that I remember just feeling really down and sad about not not being able to openly discuss these things um I remember that moment very vividly yeah because I think we both realized in that moment that like we need to we need to work on us together well really that was a thing it was like you know not having your family and not having your friends and then feel like you don't have each other you feel so alone you know you feel alone and feeling alone is never a good feeling so gosh I turned the car around I drove back home and I walked up to Jordan and I just said listen I feel alone right now and I need you and I need us and that I think I guess not having anyone led me back to you and got us to talk again and communicate I'm like so glad that we were able to get through it but like it was hard I'm emotional we calmly just sat down and just said we need to talk we need to talk and I need to be heard and you need to be heard and we don't need to be angry like let's just talk about this and I think it was like that moment in your relationship where you realize there's two paths and we can decide together if we want to do this or if I mean at that point it was sad were like is have we tried everything we can is are we just better to stop trying mm-hmm and to go our separate ways and that was like I was heavy so heavy we were in a relationship that was somewhat new still and it was so hard like I mean that was the crutch we'd say all but yeah nobody has to go through this kind of stuff that we're going through because the media in the spotlight and what people think our relationship should be and finally we said none of that matters like either you and me are gonna decide we're gonna do this together or we don't and I think in that moment there was no resentment no anger no anything it was just like we want this and we want to work at it and we've been through hopefully the worst that it will ever be and that's that moment that we chose to do that and I think since that moment has been different in that moment during that talk I saw you really just really like what you wanted to hear me and you were you you cared so I don't know how to explain to guys like he cared so much and same for me but we were hearing each other for the first time instead of trying to hear what we were saying if any of you are struggling maybe with what we struggled with that first year if you're in a place in your relationship where you guys love each other and you want to fight for it and you and you don't want to give up I would just encourage you to have that really hard conversation that no couple wants to have where it gets raw it gets real and I can't tell you how glad I am that we didn't give up in that moment that we thought we could have walked one of two ways because I would've been easy right I mean that's what everyone expects everyone expects that these relationships from the bachelor and bachelorette are quick and they're over there's a facade to them and it fizzle fizzles away and that's not what we wanted that's not who we were we didn't make that decision at the end of the show just to do it for a few months we made that decision to do it for a lifetime and so it takes work and it takes a lot of work and I'll say to guys out there as well never be afraid to seek help and in our situation it was tough we didn't have it was tough to talk to family and friends and so I'm not afraid to say I wouldn't spoke to a therapist because I needed a non-biased voice to talk to bounce things off and really just like learn about myself like why do I do this why do I not like that why do I not communicate how my mind says I should where I want to and so you just learned about yourself so never ever feel like you're too macho or too much of a man to just say you know what I need to talk to somebody that can just listen right because sometimes when you're in a new relationship or you're learning about someone it's tough to take criticism or stuff to take advice from them because usually that occurs in the heat of an argument it's never the best place so it's never a problem or it doesn't make you weak to go talk to somebody and figure things out it was the best thing that I could have done I learned so much about myself and I think I'm better in our relationship really yeah I think that that was also a moment where I looked at you and I was I just respected you so much to have wanted to do that and if you're in a bad relationship and you are being disrespected that's a different situation that is it that is a different thing if you feel like you know you I I hate even saying this word but if you're being verbally abused if you're being you know disrespected to that point I'm not sitting here and telling you to fight for that relationship right that is not what I'm saying that wasn't what our issue was you know we just had to work out those kinks and yes we did have arguments but I don't want anyone here to think that oh like they do that elationship because that is not what we're saying at all so we want to be just very clear on that guys this this is real life this is a relationship it's not always what you see on Instagram it's not always what you saw on the TV show yes we have hide the highest of highs but every relationship has its ups and downs and that's what we're here to share this is really my first first time being vulnerable about these kind of things and we want to let you in on why we're here yeah our relationship is the best that it's ever been and it takes work and that's something we're not afraid to say and not afraid to share with you guys definitely like we didn't live a fairytale life and we first got off the show it's not always gonna be smooth you will also probably see us disagree on things throughout the course of all these episodes like the fact that right now he's not eating cheese and I crave Pizza on the daily and he really throws a wedge and of what I want for dinner so yeah you're gonna see us disagree but we want to take you along we want to share things with you we want to know what you guys are going through we really want this show in general to be really interactive and we want to engage with you as much as we can so if you have anything going on in your life if you need advice if you have a relationship question we've probably been through it yeah we can help we we want to talk to you so if you have anything you want to talk to us about please comment down below let us know what's going on in your head and subscribe and we'll keep this thing rolling we will see you guys next time mwah
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COMMENTS: 100

  • Amanda Bendersky

    What about when your trying to push your other half to be better and they take that as you think they aren’t trying their best?

  • Nozie MM

    JoJo & Jordan u guys are an amazing couple! And I can see you two lasting a lifetime because u guys are genuine! I wish u two the very best, keep striving for the best in your relationship and thank u so much for sharing your love story with us. Xxx

  • Erica Munoz

    I love this! I love you guys! This was a really good episode! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • Katelyn Allen

    What are some good communication tips or habits you two have? Or any books or podcasts you listen to? My husband and I are the worst at communicating. I feel like we want to hear ourselves instead of hearing the other person and getting defensive in those hard conversations.

  • PAVIN RITAH

    Jojo and Jordan, my two favourite people, thanks for this show, its really so amazing, real, fun, educating and has maturity! Love you two everyday

  • tegan jones

    So lovely to hear you guys talk about that time...which I know is so hard. Especially when I know how that feels! And its nice to see not only your own relationship goes through this. Im glad mine recovered. And yours too! Glad you guys are happy. 😍

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  • Jenna Young

    I’m so glad you did this video and being so honest and raw about your relationship. You are helping so many people! Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️

  • rach

    thank you so much for being so real and honest

  • aly00

    I really appreciate you guys for creating this show and being vulnerable with us. Its nice to know that every relationship has its kinks in them; especially a couple who has been on TV. My boyfriend and I have gone through the ups and downs like you guys have at the beginning of our relationship and we strive to work together to keep building upon our relationship till this day. Best 6 years of our life! Wouldn’t want to change anything that got us to where we are now in life together.

  • Madison Fuller

    I love this series! It’s amazing to see how you really are and how your life really is! I’m so glad both of you found true love and persevered through the hard times ❤️

  • Christie Duffer

    I love this honesty so much. <3 Thank you for opening up! It's hard to know when enough is enough sometimes.

  • Sheri Loyd

    Absolutely LOVE your honesty and transparency. I do have a question/need advice on something that maybe you guys have faced in your relationship. My fiance' and I are engaged and have been for just over a year now. We met on the infamous... dun dun dun... TINDER! lol. A bit of our background: He was a commercial diver for the first few years of the relationship so we spent a great deal of time apart (he would travel on the road for a month at a time). Long distance was rough & definitely had its own challenges, but luckily we now live in southern California together and both work at a local hospital. One of our consistent "problems" is that we do not have the same love languages. I am a words of affirmation and touch person... while my partner is acts of service and quality time. I love the mushy cards and even the simple things like holding hands and he is not a "words" type of guy. While this may not sound like a huge "problem", it has been for us. I often feel like our love is fading or that my "love bucket" is not filled. When I express this to him... he says things like, but Babe... I cleaned your car today, brought you lunch... etc. While these things are incredibly sweet and thoughtful, I still would prefer a love note or a kiss. I don't want to sound like the needy one here... lol but I'm wondering if there is a way to improve this? How do we adjust to each others love languages/needs? Do you and Jordan have the same love languages? and if not, how do you adjust? Thanks for your time!!! -Sheri Loyd

  • Breanna Northrup

    the fact that they were able to stick together through so much and he was able to work through his pride and she was able to open herself to being hurt really says so much about their love and who they are individually.

  • Ashley Martorella

    Are you guys similar in the hobbies you like to do & events you like to attend, etc? How do you guys decide what new things you should take on together and find things you both like? Also love watching this show!! 😍

  • LuAnn Englehart

    I have been married for 24 years, but I still can relate to this. I think you are going to help so many couples. Good for you. Just do not be one of those couples who gives up. Relationships are not perfect; they are messy! Keep up the talking and never give up.

  • Amanda Guevara

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and we are deeply into each other. But the one thing that bothers him is texting my guy friend that I have been friends with for 2 years. He’s the only friend I tell everything about but my bf thinks it’s gonna be the other way around. My friend has a girlfriend and there’s 0% chance we’ll hook up anytime soon. We have fought so many times about it and I’m over it. I’m just wanting your advice if my boyfriend trusts me enough? Also he has this girl friend that he’s been friends with since high school.. (he’s 24 now) and what makes me kinda not feel right is they usually hang out just them two. He tells me they’re not gonna get together at all because she’s not his type. But what bothers me the most is they both share their locations with one another. I’m really having a hard time coping with that and I just don’t know what to tell him 😪

  • Olivia Porte

    My question for you two is how do you manage your schedules when Jordan is working on the weekends? Do you feel like he misses out on a lot of things? Or do y’all just plan dates and “together time” during the week?

  • Joey McDonough

    What are some tips on becoming more open with new people? When you feel you are very guarded and have trouble letting people in? Thoughts? Also thank you so much for doing these videos. I'm a huge fan and so happy for you two. All the best :)

  • Queen Namaste

    loved the authenticity! thank you so much for sharing your story! more couples should follow suit! If it is rainbows and butterflies all the time... something is wrong :P <3

  • MrxRiderX

    my thing is when a argument occurs, use a pencil. give the pencil to the person who is talking so that they have time to get out their feelings and not be interuppeted. Then pass the pencil and give the other person a chance to talk about their feelings. No-one can speak unless they have the pencil. This gives a chance to get everything off of your chest, be understood and work it out.

  • CHARLOTTE URBAN

    For someone who just broke up with someone she really loved. How do you move on knowing that there is someone better out there for you? And how do you go about getting out there to meet people after being in a relationship for a long time?

  • Diane C

    My husband and I broke up twice (for very short time) before we married. Here we are 43 yrs later. We didn't live together, but after marriage, the first year was the toughest. Then it just gets better and better, because it is hard and takes time, but worth it.

  • Front Kick

    Marriage is death by a thousand cuts! She will become a narcissistic nightmare!

  • Trisha Anderson

    I love this series! You two are the best! So on the first episode of the bachelorette when I seen Jordan I thought he was perfect for you! I love how open you two are being with your relationship:) it’s nice to know that it’s possible to get through the struggles of a new relationship without giving up! You guys are the best ❤️

  • Darth Kahless

    Extremely lovely lesbian couple! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 #NewFan

  • Marilyn Loy

    I owe the fans of JoJo and Jordan an apology. I love hearing their honesty but when they talked about a reality show I was worried it wasn’t real but staged but I now know their sharing is real and they are doing a great job of helping others. I love their honesty!❤️

  • Nem Khan

    why is he watching like that? just watching or scanning 😍

  • sabaya Shylla

    He way he look at her😍 they re just perfect for each other❤️

  • beans

    What’s your stand JoJo?

  • Alyse Rothenberg

    I'd like to know Jojo if you have dealt with feeling Jordan was ever emotionally not supportive and what you did? like how you talked about it?

  • xsweetl0ux

    I loved this so much. I think it shows how you went through struggles and came out stronger as a couple and as individuals. Loved how honest and raw you guys we’re ! Wish you guys the best xx

  • Sean Zilligen

    Who are these people and why should I care about their relationship? One thing’s for sure, if they’re both attention-craving, conceited assholes like these videos imply, then I’m sure they’ll make it.

  • Devon H

    Who f-ing are these whiney ass millennials. This guy has to be in the closet. Lol

  • Emily

    What in the heck is Kin?

  • Patrick

    If you see this, I love you and I want to be us again. Please like this so my wife will see this message higher up in the comments.

  • Tressa Renee

    thanks for sharing guys. I watched clips from your season many times as I love the energy between you two. it was really amazing and I hope to have a relationship like that someday. And thanks for saying don't fight for an abusive relationship. I did that for many years with a narcissist and I finally learned that narcissist cannot return love or give love and so I ended the relationship but I wasted a lot of years. However I always believe that it's never too late

  • Danni Dichito

    I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years with my high school sweet heart (not married yet), and we can definitely relate to feeling pressure from others to do what they want us to do. Thank you for sharing your story!! It’s refreshing to hear we all go through the same things.💜 Best of luck- always rooting for you guys!

  • Shelley Turner

    Was Jordon ever jealous or upset the way you were with the other guys in the season ?

  • ethan bradberry

    The second someone over comments on a word they said well uh that’s gonna be quick dislike for me bucko, chuckling ehehehhehe.

  • Candice Capps

    I love y’all so much for being so REAL!! Yes the show was glamorous and all, but y’all are showing us that you’re real and in a serious relationship. It’s so wonderful what your doing in making these videos. I am married and the thing we struggle with the most is communicating with each other in the moment. We seem to communicate, but it’s usually after the fact. We have two young boys, and we both work full time. So life is busy, and sometimes the communication falls off the tracks. Also, I like to talk about everything, so if it’s bothering me, or I think something is bothering my husband, I wanna talk about it. He is the opposite. He is really easy going, and always seems unphased. So, I am looking forward to these videos!! Love y’all 💕💕

  • lisa Thompson

    I watched your season and have to say I was skeptical about Jordan but I am happy to see that I was totally wrong. You guys are beautiful together. Relationship are hard work (28 years in even), but communication is always key! Keep up the good work!

  • Olivia Nasha

    GUYS CHECK OUT MY UPCOMING VIRAL VIDEO, SHARE IT, SUPPORT AND SUBSCRIBE!!. XOXOXO

  • Grace M

    this is the whitest, straightest shit

  • Elizabeth Stember

    This is great advice from a very young couple in a very young relationship. You said something that I just said about my husband of 36 years. He just passed away and I am heartbroken. However, I wrote something about him for the service titled "Thoughts on my Beloved." In it I shared just what you said JoJo, "this was not a fairy tale relationship". We had some very difficult challenges to get through but the reason we succeeded is that we always respected each other, never hit below the belt, and we constantly worked on improving our communication with each other. We were in it together and that is the key. You can't just have one person working on it. It has to be both of you who choose to move forward together. We got clean and sober together, we went through the loss of a child together, we have raised our grandchild together and more. We were opposites, he was morning, I was night, he was an introvert, I am an extrovert but we learned to love each other even with these differences and we were still falling more in love up to the end of his life. Marriage is hard work but it is so worth it so be willing to work and you will have a beautiful life together.

  • Sherri Small

    I'm so glad to hear Jordan say he talked to someone and telling guys it's OK. Been with my husband 20 yrs we have def had our ups and downs. We def need to communicate better. Love y'all

  • Bint Sabina

    Am going through a long distance relationship with my husband, its been a year now and it sucks

  • Asian Twinz

    I stopped watching after your guys season was over 😭😭Anywaysss I wish you guys a pursuit of happiness!!!! Thank you for being vulnerable and open to us we love you guys!!!!

  • Tiffany Dupree

    I am so hooked your show! Y'all are my favorite couple from the Bachelor/Bachelorette! L O V E this!!

  • Joelle M

    This video is trending!!! Congratulations!!!!! 🍾🎊🎈🎉♥️💕💛

  • Kronos92

    This dude is gay 😂 No real man would do some shit like this.

  • brokenredflag

    Wow!! You guys rock. I think many famous cuples i youtube are afraid of letting their flus in their relation ship be seen. Probably cuse they think wel think their gona brake up. And we dont think that at all. We know is normal. Your the first one i see takling this ishu. Thank you. Hope youtubers understand now.

  • Christine W

    You have definitely beat the odds by working on your relationship and realizing that The Bachelor dream dates and beautiful environments are not real life. It does take work & MANY kudos to Jordan for going to therapy. Any man I've been with has felt like they'd have to admit that something was wrong that they couldn't fix or handle by themselves if they went to a therapist. Definitely keep doing the work, especially before having kids, so you have the strongest foundation possible to start a family. Looking forward to more!

  • Teri Havlik

    So good to watch you guys being real! And talking & explaining your relationship, Thankyou 👍❤️

  • Kimberly McLeod

    I have been LOVING this new series for a few reasons: 1. you are my fave couple from the Bachelor because from the beginning I could see you were both real people that have jobs and are just so grounded. In watching this latest episode, i'm really impressed to hear that Jordan has been to therapy. I don't know if it's too personal, but i'd be interested to hear more details about that. I think you're helping normalize the idea of therapy, rather than having it be a vague weird thing for people with crazy trauma they have to work through. I think more people could benefit from it than we all want to admit.

  • Claire

    I love you guys so much! By far my favorite couple from the bachelor/bachelorette shows! Any advice on how to know if a guy actually likes me? Guys keep ghosting me after a few days...

  • Lihua Shen

    Having the courage to reveal the insecurities and struggles you have gone through as a couple and as an individual is a sign of strength and it is empowering to those who face similar challenges. Thank you so much for sharing! I saw something special between you from the moment you two met and followed your journey since. Hands down my favorite couple and will support you no matter what:)

  • The White RickJames

    Communication & sacrifice... the unfortunate news is that the odds are heavily against successful relationships. So good luck, you'll need it

  • mont0127

    I loved you guys on the show! So happy to see you are still going strong! I do want to add that I am in love with your throw pillows! Where did you get them? hehe :)

  • Pollyanna Principle

    I'm surprised to see this video. I thought these two were faking it after the show. If they were in love, wouldn't they be married by now like all the rest of the bachelor people that fell in love? They are a cute couple. I hope it works out.

  • Melvin

    This guy kinda looks like Thomas from YesTheory from the sides.

  • Michelle Torres

    Can I just say I love you two so very much! You guys are so inspirational!!! I’ve been following you guys since the bachelorette and fell in love with you two. You are so real and I appreciate that. The way you two look at each other just melts my heart! Thank you for being a real life couple ❤️

  • Furno

    It's a bizarre adventure for them

  • Eromaylandra !

    Why does Jordan look so different, did he loose some muscle mass?